Friday, August 31, 2012

Romancing The Hop: What Makes BDSM Romantic?

When I decided to participate in the Romancing the Hop blog hop, I was drawn by the subject of the hop -- Romance. I've always read, but romance has been my favorite genre since I read my first one when I was twelve. It's not just the happily ever after that gets me. It's the relationship developed between the main characters and their self-awareness. And yes, my interest in romance eventually led to my writing it.

I write romance.
I write erotic romance.
I write BDSM erotic romance.

I write BDSM erotic romance.
I write erotic romance.
I write romance.

I sometimes think I should adopt this as my personal mantra. Whether repeated forwards or in reverse order, to me, romance is the key. It can be found in a butterfly soft kiss, the touch of a hand, the smack of a paddle, or the crack of a whip. Whichever way the emotional connection is established and communicated between two individuals, it reflects two things: Trust and Respect.

Trust and respect. It seems like a simple enough equation: Trust + Respect = Love/Romance. I mean, a person has to trust and respect themselves before they can love themselves. And a person has to love themselves before they can actually love another. At least that's the theory, right?

That's what I find so cool about writing romance. Sometimes an author runs across a character that hasn't discovered how lovable they are. It takes the trust and respect shown to them by someone else to trigger those same emotions in themselves. The happily ever after doesn't come until the the characters trust and respect themselves to love and be loved.

I think this need for trust and respect for oneself and others is what draws me to writing kink. In BDSM, trust and respect are important components of a power exchange relationship. The Dominant must trust and respect the ability of the submissive to make rational, informed, and reasonable decisions on what s/he will participate in. At the same time, the submissive has to trust and respect that the Dominant is capable of doing the same. Add romance to the mix and the stakes can be upped. Due to the inherent need for trust and respect between the participants, readers can more clearly visualize the growing emotions between characters.

So, when some people ask "What makes BDSM romantic?" or "How can getting spanked be romantic?" I point out trust and respect.

Now, on to the part everyone is really interested in -- the contests.

Romancing the Hop has three great prizes, you only need to leave a comment on any of the 207 blogs participating. The more you comment the more chances you have to win. Make sure you leave your email address in your comment so you can be included in the drawing. No email, no entry.


1st Grand Prize: A Kindle Fire or Nook Tablet
2nd Grand Prize: A $130 Amazon or B&N Gift Card
3rd Grand Prize: The following Swag Pack!

My contest is similar. Same rule -- no email, no entry. Leave a comment with your email in it. I'm giving away a messenger bag, with a felt sleeve for a computer (max size for sleeve is 15.5"), a pen, Diablo Blanco Club sticky notes, and a key chain wallet. Here's a picture of my prize:

Click on the Romancing the Hop picture to go to the list of other blogs participating. You have until September 3, 2012 to enter. I'll announce the winner of my prize here and on my Facebook page on Tuesday, September 4th.



Enjoy and Good Luck!!
Q

165 comments:

  1. Thanks for the post Qwillia. I fully agree with the trust and respect aspects of BDSM. That is why I'm drawn to this genre and type of relationship. I also believe honesty and communication are really important. Most relationships don't have these components and that's why they fail. If you can find all these qualities and add in the romance, you'd have the perfect relationship.
    rmwyer@shaw.ca

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    1. Exactly, Becki. I think if a relationship is going to flourish it's important that open communication is maintained. That's what fascinates me about BDSM...communication happens up front and a clear understanding of what will and won't happen is given. No misconceptions, no ambiguity.
      Thanks for participating.
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  2. I don't know that I ever perceived bdsm as romantic - but the same 'must haves' are there for that relationship as any others. Perhaps a bdsm relationship has a more 'rigid' need for all of the pieces to make a romantic relationship work - for communicating and trust seem to be things that must be there to have the relationship work... I now have something to think about - and the germ of a blog post...thanks!

    glhince@gmail.com

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    1. iamindeed, I'm glad to have sparked an idea. In my mind, a BDSM relationship isn't any more rigid than a vanilla relationship, it's just that the rules, expectations, and consequences are all clearly stated unlike many vanilla relationships where it's not until you butt up against a communication problem that you realize expectations haven't been met.
      Thank you for stopping by.
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  3. Thanks for the opportunity to meet you.
    featherstone.author@gmail.com

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  4. Glad to be introduced to another author in a genre I am interested in
    kegasg@aol.com

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    1. I hope you enjoy my books, if you do, or have any questions, please feel free to email me.
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  5. Love definitely comes in many forms from sweet to BDSM, but I think you're absolutely right. Trust and respect are the foundation for those things.

    lindaandrews@lindaandrews.net

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    1. Thank you Linda, I've had a lot of fun learning about D/s and BDSM lifestyles and I enjoy passing the knowledge on.
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  6. Great post. The total trust that's portrayed in a BDSM relationship is exactly what drew me to the genre and I find that I can't get enough of it.
    molly dot frenzel at gmail dot com

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    1. Me too, Molly.
      It's so vital that both parties trust one another, and not just in a BDSM relationship -- in any relationship.
      Have fun on the hop!
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  7. I enjoyed the post; it was a great read.

    I love blog hops; they are a great way to meet new authors.

    Thanks,
    Tracey D
    booklover0226 at gmail dot com

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    1. Thanks Tracey D,
      I love hops because the introduce me to new readers!
      Have fun.
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  8. I love your mantra. I love BDSM romance books and yours are among my favorites. Great post!

    kesummer69 at gmail dot com

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    1. Thank you Kelsey. I love writing my stories because the characters really deserve their happy endings. They have to really work for them of course, but they do get them.
      Have fun on the hop.
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  9. A great post, really enjoyed it. Totally agree trust and respect is so important.
    skpetal at hotmail dot com

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  10. Thanks for chance, after reading your post I'm looking forward to your work, I love discovering new authors.
    Thanks
    Lupdilup@gmail.com

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    1. Thank you Loupe, I'd love to hear what you think of my books.
      Good luck on the drawings!
      Q

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  11. I'm not sure i'm ready for such a book yet but i understand how trust is capital

    thank you a lot for your participation in this blog hop

    isabelle(dot)frisch(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Completely understandable, Miki, BDSM isn't for everyone, but thank you for being open-minded.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  12. I am so with you on trust and respect! With out them BDSM can just be abuse. Great post, thanks for being a part of the hop. Carin
    myreadingobsession at hotmail dot com

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    1. I think you're right, Carin, it's kind of scary how people misconstrue what BDSM is about rather than actually educating themselves about it.
      Thanks for stopping by. Good luck on the drawings!
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  13. I'm not a huge fan of BDSM romance. Of course, it could just be that I haven't found a decent book yet. I'll have to check out yours.
    lisa(at)vetteklisa(dot)com

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    1. Lisa, sorry to hear you haven't found a BDSM book you like yet. I would recommend Santa's Elf or Unfair Advantage if you're going to try one of my books.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  14. I completely agree with you. Trust & respect are vital in any kind of relationship. Once you see the need for trust & respect in BDSM, it's easier to understand the romance in it.

    wolphcall(at)bellsouth(dot)net

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    1. Thank you, Lisa,
      I appreciate you stopping by today. Good luck on the drawings!
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  15. I absolutely love BDSM and throwing romance in is all the better. Thx for giveaway, great stuff.

    blinkysthebest at aol dot com

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    1. Lona, I can't agree with you more. Good luck with the drawings!
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  16. Wow! What an amazing swag pack! I am not a huge fan of BDSM, but I have read a couple. Romance is my favorite genre, though!

    Thanks for the chance to win.

    Barbara
    bbsbooknook@aol.com

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    1. I'm with you on the romance, Barbara.
      There are some great authors who write BDSM and do the lifestyle justice.
      Good luck on the drawings!
      Q

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  17. Thank you for the giveaway!

    Diana
    bookofsecrets(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. You're welcome, Diana,
      Thanks for stopping by. Good luck on the drawings.
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  18. Thanks for the insight into the world of BDSM

    fencingromein at hotmail dot com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Shannon.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  19. OMG i love reading storyies like these, and im surprised i have'nt found you befor but i will be getting a couple of your books very soon! thank you for joining in on the hop, great way to learn about new (atleast to me) authors.

    Miriam.whitewolf@gmail.com

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    1. Miriam,
      I hope you enjoy my stories and thank you for stopping by.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  20. I used to sneer at romance, and all the sub genres... I don't anymore. Writing it without realizing I was writing changed a lot.

    Jesse
    jesse.kimmelfreeman@gmail.com

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    1. I know what you mean, Jesse. Good luck on the drawings!
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  21. Thanks so much for the chance to win!
    sqwallker2@hotmail.com

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    1. Good Luck on the drawings, Liese2.
      Thanks for stopping by.
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  22. I've only read one BDSM so far. I've enjoyed "meeting" you on the NOR chats.
    sallans d at yahoo dot com

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    1. Hi, Di,
      So nice to "see" a familiar face! I'm glad you stopped by.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  23. What a great hop! Grand prizes, old friends to visit and new ones to meet… and chances to win at each stop too. I’m in Blog heaven!
    <^_^>
    I am a sucker for the HEA. All my favorite authors give me a great story line, characters I can identify with, hot love scenes and a perfect HEA!
    Thanks for being part of the hop and for the chance to win.
    reneebennett35(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Thank you, Renee, for participating. Good luck on the drawings!
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  24. Read several BDSM and most of your books, which were my introduction the BDSM novels. Thanks for the great giveaway.

    emily.heisler @ gmail.com

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    1. Thanks Emily,
      I'm always happy when I hear from readers who like my books.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  25. You are one of my favorite authors and your books are so romantic. I personally think BDSM romances are the most romantic of books because they have trust and communication.

    susanmplatt AT hotmail DOT com

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    1. Thank you Susan. I'm so happy to hear from readers who like my stories.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  26. I've been reading erotic fiction about 3 years. I agree with the trust and respect that has to be between a dominant and submissive. Just like any relationship needs those traits it can survive. I think thereby just as much romance in BDSM as in mainstream romance.In
    plw1075@yahoo.com

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    1. Patricia, thanks for visiting and I completely agree, relationships, vanilla or kink, require trust and respect to survive.
      Good luck on the drawings.
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  27. I agree that without trust & respect you can not have romance. I happen to think spanking is romantic. BDSM to me makes it even more romantic because you have to have so much more trust and communication. Thank you for the giveaway.
    kaylyndavis1986@yahoo.com

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    1. LOL, thanks for participating, and I agree, I like spanking stories, too.
      Good luck in the drawings.
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  28. Thanks for the insightful post. I hadn't really considered BDSM as romance until now. I guess it's all in how you write it.
    deedee [at] grifmail [dot] com

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    1. Thanks for being open minded, DeeDee, I love looking at things from a different perspective.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  29. I love to read BDSM. The trust factor is what always catches my attention. To trust someone so much to give them your body, heart, love and mind. . . sigh. I'd love to find someone like that. Thanks for being a part of the hop. I hope that you have a great Labor day weekend!
    jessangil at gmail dot com

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    1. Jessica, It's nice to find another person who appreciates the BDSM genre. Good luck in the drawings.
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  30. I like to read light BDSM. I would like someone to trust with whatever my desires might be. Someone who will explore with me.
    koonie2888 at yahoo dot com

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    1. Michelle, that I can understand. I hope you can find that person.
      Good luck in the drawings!
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  31. Yeah, I've thought of BDSM as a romance in a way that conveys trust and respect on both ends in a very pronounced way. I find it sad that a lot of people misconstrue it to be this awful, abusive type of thing that happens. It's abusive if no one is respecting each others boundaries, but I hardly ever come across that in books, unless it's just a terrible read, haha. :)

    craigcrystal(at)ymail(dot)com

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    1. LOL, I know what you mean.
      I try to avoid depicting abusive situations.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  32. Great point about trust and respect being a big part of romance and BDSM.

    fitzgerald_sue at yahoo dot com

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    1. Thank you, Sue, for stopping by.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  33. What a fun hop! delphinareadstoomuch at yahoo

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    1. It is, Delphina, thank you for stopping by.
      Good luck in the drawings!
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  34. I'm enjoying the hop and discovering new authors. I love romance wit HEAs!
    mcv111 at hotmail dot com

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    1. I'm glad you're enjoying the hop.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  35. You have it so right when it comes to trust and respect especially between a sub and her dom.
    edor628@verizon.net

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    1. Thank you, Eileen, and thank you for stopping by.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  36. Ohhh, I love finding new authors on a hop, thanks for participating and the chance to win. I'll add you to my TBR list. Love BDSM Romance.
    starsia_70@yahoo.com
    kim

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    1. Kim, I hope you like what I write, I love hearing from readers. Thanks for stopping by and enjoy the hop.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  37. Thanks for the chance to win.....I love getting hooked on new authors.
    YVette
    yratpatrol@aol.com

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    1. I hope you like my books, Yvette, and thank you for stopping by.
      good luck on the drawings!
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  38. Thank you for the chance to win...


    ronnkelly3@aol.com

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  39. Thank you for participating in this blog hop!
    snhoveln(at)gmail(dot)com

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  40. Thank you for the awesome and amazing giveaway!
    cassandrahicks1989@yahoo.com

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  41. Thank you for the giveaway !
    jukyjoauka at aol dot com

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  42. Awesome giveaway! I enjoy hopping around and read about new books and authors!
    verusbognar (at) gmail (dot) com

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  43. I agree, romance is romance as long as there is trust and respect.

    thaack(at)gmail(dot)com

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  44. Great post. I agree that trust and respect are very important in a relationship.

    mythic021@gmail.com

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    1. Respect and trust are important, thanks for agreeing, Vanessa.
      Good luck on the drawing!
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  45. So glad to have discovered another new author. You are on my TBR list now. :)

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  46. Love the hops because like others have said I have been introduced to new others and genres. I love romance in all of the forms I have been lucky enough to read, but I am always looking for more authors to fall in love with.

    sam1slim1@gmail.com

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    1. Glad to have you stop by, Shan.
      Good luck on the drawings.
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  47. Great hop! You are on my list of auto buys and I am always eager to read your newest books!

    Gabrielle
    meingee@yahoo.com

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    1. Thank you, Gabrielle, I hope I never disappoint.
      Good luck on the drawings!
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  48. You are right Qwillia! It's all about trust and respect...and a red-hot hero in your hands...or on top...or underneath...or, well, you get the picture! Thanks for being part of the hop!
    rleoauthor@gmail.com

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    1. Thanks for participating in the hop as well, Rosanna.
      Good luck in the drawings!
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  49. Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaways! This is so much fun! Thank you! My favorite thing about romance is the romance. lol I love the characters, the plots, the HEA's, the love. I love it all!
    shadowluvs2read(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. I know just what you mean, Shadow. I love romance.
      Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings!
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  50. I've only recently entered the world of BDSM novels and am so glad I did! I will most certainly be checking out your books :)

    lindsayavalon (at) gmail (dot) com

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    1. Thank you, Lindsay, for stopping by. I hope, if you try my books, you enjoy them.
      Have a great day and good luck on the drawings!
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  51. I completely agree about BDSM in romance. I love to read it. The trust and communication that is involved in the power exchange is amazing.

    mel
    bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

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    1. Definitely the communication component is important. Thanks for stopping by and good luck in the drawings, Mel!
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      Don't forget to leave your email for the drawings!
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  53. Hi, What a very thoughtful post. Romance and trust.
    Nice post, and glad you are part of our hop.

    Lily Silver, Romancing History

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    1. Thanks for being part of the hop as well, Lily.
      Don't forget to leave your email to be entered in the drawings.
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  54. Great post!!! I love romance books but they must have HEA’s! My favorite are series because I love seeing the characters again in other books!!

    thanks for the contest!!
    forettarose@yahoo.com

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    1. I know what you mean, Foretta. I love to revisit characters I've met before. I think that's why I love the characters in my Diablo Blanco Club. They keep coming back again and again.
      Thanks for stopping by and good luck in the drawings!
      Q

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  55. Romance Hop...awesome idea! Best love story for me..Pretty Woman...romance... earned trust and respect indeed! Nice to checkout your page!

    Thanks for the opportunity!

    Belinda belgre@comcast.net

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    1. Thank you, Belinda, for stopping by. Good luck on the drawings.
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  56. Thanks for the great hop and prizes...love romance in all its incarnations... :)

    maryjooller [at] yahoo [dot] com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and good luck in the drawings, Mary Jo.
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  57. Personally I prefer romance between two equals rather than a dominant and submissive, but I'll agree that trust and respect have to be present in any relationship fot it to work and last.
    paulamartinromances(at)gmail.com

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    1. Depending on the situation, Paula, a dominant and submissive are equals since either one can stop what's going on with a word or gesture. In fact, in many cases, a D/s relationship allows for more equality than many vanilla relationships. Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings.
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  58. Thank you for the great romance hop giveaway! I love to read romance especially when it's mixed with mystery!
    kaylas_1mom@yahoo.com

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    1. I like romantic suspense and mystery romances as well, HJ. Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings.
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  59. Thanks for the blog hop!
    Lelelia@aol.com

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  60. I love erotic romance, and write BDSM light in my stories. I agree that trust is so important in that sort of relationship, and I think it only deepens a romantic relationship.

    miadowning007 at hotmail.com

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    1. Definitely it deepens the relationships, Mia. Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings.
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  61. I adore romances. My favorite part is the growing chemistry and intimacy {being able to know what the other wants/needs without words} between man and woman. :)
    Thanks for participating in the hop and giving us all a chance to win, and share our stories.
    bidelia78@yahoo.com

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    1. I agree, Kitty, the chemistry between characters is compelling. Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings.
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  62. Thanks for the great giveaway! I love this equation Trust + Respect = Love/Romance. It makes a lot of sense.

    red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)com

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    1. Thanks, Sarah, I truly do believe it's important to incorporate trust and respect into a relationship. Thank you for stopping by and good luck in the drawings!
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  63. Thanks for being part of the blog hop and for the giveaway!
    flava_sava_chick@yahoo.com

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    1. Thanks for participating, Brandi. Good luck on the drawings!
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  64. Thanks!!! havebookwillsurvive at gmail.com

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  65. I love romance because it's so UNLIKE real life...LOL. It's true escapist reading.
    catherinelee100 at gmail dot com

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    1. LOL, it can be unlike real life, but sometimes it can be just like real life.
      Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings!
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  66. Thanks tons for the hop! I only read romance. My fav is Lora Leigh! Going to parade Monday with brothers and sisters! Should be FUN!
    swkimbell@yahoo.com

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    1. I like her Breed series. Good luck on the drawings and thank you for stopping by!
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      Good luck on the drawings.
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  68. Trust, respect and a healthy dose of communication!
    http://romancethebookblog.danitaminnis.com/?ci=22763

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  69. Thank you for participating - I love discovering new authors
    shermie40 at yahoo dot com

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      Good luck on the drawings.
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  70. My blog reading list is getting longer and longer - what a gret hop!

    jochibi AT yahoo DOT com

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    2. No problem, Jo, I understand completely. Thanks for coming by and good luck on the drawings!
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  71. thanks for the opportunity and have a great weekend!
    tjandbcd at optonline dot net

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    1. You have a great weekend, too, Betty. Good luck on the drawings!
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  72. You are a new author for me. So glad I'm participating in this hop & found you. I will be checking out your books. Thanks for the giveaway!
    JessieL62@comcast.net

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Jessie. If you read any of my books, I hope you enjoy them and let me know. Good luck with the drawings.
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  73. I like your idea of what makes BDSM romantic. I love to read about relationship development in the stories, too. I have read some really romantic BDSM stories. To me, there is not much difference. I enjoy them all. ;)
    trb0917 at gmail.com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Tina. I have to agree there are some very romantic BDSM stories. Good luck on the drawings.
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  74. Thanks for the giveaway. I'm having a great time on the hop.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

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    1. Glad to hear you're having fun.
      Thanks for stopping by. Good luck on the drawings.
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  75. Thanks for the intro (& getting to meet ya) and great blog hop
    BeckeyWhiteATgmailDOTcom
    Beckey

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Beckey. Glad you're enjoying the hop.
      Good luck on the drawings.
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  76. Thanks for the giveaway. Nice, unique giveaway (love the bag)
    June
    manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

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    1. You're welcome, June. I love the bags, just got them for promotions. Thanks for stopping by and good luck on the drawings!
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  77. Thanks for the giveaway, I haven't read a BDSM book yet but I have been wanting too.

    vampiremistress2010(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. There are some great BDSM authors out there. Of my books, Santa's Elf was my first BDSM novel. If you get the chance, check out Lissa Matthews' Pink Buttercream Frosting or Cherise Sinclair's Shadowlands is a great series...their books are great introductions to BDSM.
      Thanks for stopping by and good luck in the drawings.
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  78. Trust is huge when it comes to a good BDSM relationship. And you've got this way of writing romance that makes the D/s so tender, most of the time. Sounds like a contradiction, but you do it quite well.

    candace@candaceblevins.com

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    1. Thank you, Candace. And I'm most appreciative of your compliment. Your work is amazing and I love the Safeword series.
      Thanks for stopping by and good luck in the drawing.
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  80. Congratulations to Becki Wyer, winner of the drawing for my gift pack.

    Qwillia

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    1. Thank you so much. I love it :)

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    3. I got the gift pack today. Thank you :) Have a great day (and hurry up with Rick and Becka lol)

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    4. Glad to hear it!! As soon as I finish Rick and Becka, I'll let you know!
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